A secret to self-acceptance.

Hey, guys, I will break from the traveling info and get to talk a bit about our self-love, self- care, self-acceptance today.  I had fun visiting Cape Sounion by the way and I’ll be telling you about a new place soon. 

What is self-acceptance? 

self-acceptance is an individual’s satisfaction or happiness with oneself and is thought to be necessary for good mental health. Self-acceptance involves self-understanding, a realistic, albeit subjective, awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses. It results in an individual’s feeling about oneself, that they are of unique worth.

We most of the time take it for granted, we wait for others to accept us to give us reassuarence that we are good enough or we are capable of being where we are or how we are. We forget that all this should start from within us. Accepting ourselves the way we are is a key to whatever we want to be.

My experience.

I’ll talk from experience, I rarely get things to anguish me, and most importantly, to take me to a depression state. Last year was the worst year of my life. Leave alone the time when I lost my mom. I was in the darkest room of depression. This started by me hating myself for failing in different aspects. I started calling myself names whenever I looked in the mirror. The more I declined self-acceptance, the more the room was getting darker. I wasn’t satisfied with myself failing.

It took me a couple of months to a turnaround and realize that as a human, I’m allowed to fail and learn from it, I started feeling better. I went back to how I know myself to be. Not letting things stress me out and working on what I can do. I stopped calling myself names. I started seeing many more amazing things in me and to add to that, I noticed that people are liking me more. One thing I will pinpoint about self-acceptance is the increased level of self-esteem. There are a lot of other things you should know.

Last time I was with my niece who is only 17, she asked me to do her makeup and the first thing she said to me before I even completed her make up was. “ Please, auntie don’t make me look dark”. I stopped for a second and looked at her and asked, why would you say that? She replied with an honest answer, I don’t like to be dark, I will not look beautiful.

I had to explain to her, why I find her so beautiful the way she is, and being light doesn’t make any difference we are all humans. Our acts and kindness are what counts. This is because the media shows her that, being light skinned, is more fun. She learned to decline her dark skin without knowing why. I had to show her all the list of successful supermodels who made it to Victoria secret runway and are darker than she is.

It took me time to make it sink in her mind, for her to understand that she was gorgeous the way she is and what she sees on TV is not all about it. It all begins with her accepting who she is and whoever comes will accept her the way she is. Telling a teenage girl that she is her own version, no one will ever be like her and she has to ambrace her uniqueness, is a piece of work.

Why self-acceptance is important?

Here are the reasons why self-acceptance should be your number one goal. In fact a ritual.

1. A heightened sense of freedom,
2. A decrease in fear of failure,
3. An increase in self-worth,
4. An increase in independence
5. An increase in self-esteem,
6. Less desire to win the approval of others,
7. Less self-critique and more self-kindness when mistakes occur,
8. More desire to live life for one’s self (and not others), and,
9. The ability to take more risks without worrying about the consequences.
10. Good mental health.
11. Self- compassion.
12. Self-love. 

How to achieve self-acceptance?

If you really love yourself then you have tried some of the things on this least and, if you are struggling with self-love then here is a list of what you can try to make you appreciate yourself again. 

1. Learn to live with your imperfections
2. Stop comparing yourself to anyone else.
3. Learn that failure is part of the process.
4. Learn to validate your emotional reality.
5.  Negative judgments towards yourself should end.
6. Be around people who will accept you the way you are.
7. Perform charitable acts.
8. Speak to your highest self.
9. Fake it ‘til you make it. ( I live by this code always)

Have you ever failed to accept yourself, and how did you overcome it? Please share your experience with others and me.

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49 thoughts on “SELF-ACCEPTANCE.

  1. You have brought yourself a long way along your journey. It’s fantastic that you are now able to help your niece and many others. Accepting yourself is truly key to enjoying life and being the kind of person that others enjoy being around. Embrace who you are!

  2. Great article on self acceptance, what it is and why we need it. Which I had this information sooner but nevertheless it is a reminder to love ourselves.

  3. I had to come back and re-read the 12 reasons why self care is so important. This article is becoming a great reference for me.

  4. I love this post. People need to learn to love themselves the way they are. Your poor niece – I am glad you were there to reassure her. We actually live in a pretty shallow world at times, where the emphasis is put on to looking a certain way, meaning that the people who don’t feel they’re not good enough. Pretty sad. Everyone should love themselves.

    1. In the world of today where people don’t care how you feel after that nasty comment, they make about you. We have to go back to our own room and make sure we love who we are first and no matter what, nothing negative will change the way we see ourselves.

  5. I find that meditation is useful for things like self-acceptance. Too often, our monkey minds are saying bad things about ourselves, etc. and meditating grounds us and brings us back to the present moment, where everything is okay.

  6. self acceptance is important. |Stop comparing yourself to anyone else. We are all uniques and each one their own gifts. thanks for writing this

  7. I used to be so self confident but now, it seems I don’t have it anymore. Maybe because i have been confined to the house for the longest time. I must start working to lift my spirits up! Thank you for the tips.

  8. Self Acceptance is the key to self confidence, which gives the courage and key to everything we do on everyday basis. I agree its very difficult in the environment/surroundings we live in.

  9. Unfortunately, that is the honest truth! We live for acceptance and ratings nowadays and we forget to remind ourselves daily that God did not make a mistake when creating us.
    Thank you for working hard on yourself, and being strong enough to help others.

  10. Self acceptance is so important. I hope everyone who is struggling with it reads this post! Because it is an amazing reminder of how important it is. Nobody is perfect and we never will be. But the start to inner beauty and happiness is self acceptance.

  11. This post brought back history. I was struggling with self-acceptance when I was younger. Leaving home to a different country where I was seen as ‘weird’ made things really difficult. I hated myself. I started bleaching my skin, I rebelled just to ‘fit in’ in the society. However, I grew out of it when I realize that it doesn’t matter what I do or how I do it, people will always find something to shame you on. You are right Self- Acceptance is very important.

    1. It is so sad to hear what people go through just to fit in the society basket. I so happy to hear that you took your own path and realized you will never change how people think about you.

  12. The older you get, the more you realize that other people DGAF about you really. Not to mean that in a negative way, but everyone is too self-absorbed to care that someone might have a mole or acne on their face. All negative images are usually introspected.

  13. I believe it’s important to know that we are all perfectly imperfect, and that mistakes and failure are just wonderful opportunities to learn and grow.. even though it may be hard!

  14. This is something I am working on myself, I’ve always been pretty hard on myself over pretty much everything but I need to learn how to let go a bit and not be so negative about myself.

  15. I hate how hard life can be, but if I’ve learned anything in my years, its that no one is immune and how we respond to life’s rough patches sets the stage for how we will overcome and be able to move ahead. We are always a work in progress.

  16. Sorry to read about the loss of your Mom as that is a very powerful influence in our lives and can shake our confidence. Yes, we do need to develop our inner core to embrace all that we are. As humans, we are all beautiful and equally flawed.

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